Thoughts, reads,
and the real stuff.
Book reviews, postpartum tips, and an honest account of what it's actually like to be a brand new doula. Welcome.
Why Your Baby Won’t Sleep
They spent their entire existence somewhere warm and dark with no edges, and the first thing we ask is that they lie...
How are you holding up? (A belated Father’s Day post)
Every visitor has the same script. How is mama doing, is she sleeping, can I hold the baby. Meanwhile the other parent...
How To Visit A Baby
Ask a new parent what they need and you will get "nothing, we're fine." So don't ask. Make the bed, put the...
The Tracking Apps
The app was infrastructure, the same logic as setting a reminder to take your medication. The alarm went off and we all...
What Does a Postpartum Doula Actually Do?
The answer is different every time, which sounds like a dodge. Day four is not day seventeen, and 6pm when everyone is...
Boundaries, burnout, and babies
Understanding boundaries conceptually and applying them inconsistently is the honest version of where I'm at. Then there were the twins, and I...
What families have taught me
What's hard is almost always the gap between what people expected postpartum to feel like and what it actually does. The thing...
What Does It Feel Like To Show Up For Families?
Something happens around the first hour, when a parent says the thing they have not said out loud to anyone yet. Leaving...
In which I take an unexpected week off, or, how HFM kicked the snot out of us
Hand, foot and mouth sounds manageable until it isn't. The internet suggests popsicles, which is advice written somewhere that is not currently...
Why I chose postpartum work (or maybe it chose me, a little)
The long walk to postpartum work starts with losing my dad and my sister before my son was a thought. Evidence over...